The way we treat and bring up our children today will eventually frame them into what they will become tomorrow. If they will become saints or monsters, it is entirely up to you as a parent. The parent begins to lay the foundation stones of who their children eventually become. People who have kids, parents are laden with the responsibility of ensuring that their children are not misguided or led astray by the ever-present vices in our societies. Remember that today’s children are on the path to become either the leaders or the villains of tomorrow, depending on the route you tow as a parent to bring them up today; so, we must take adequate care to bring them up the right way. As hard as parenting may be, choosing the right child-upbringing path to take is therefore crucial. The question to any parent that is reading this article today is, “What path do I want my child to go down on when they become adults? The right path or the bad path of life?” You decide.
“Teach a child to choose the right path, and when he is older, he will remain upon it.” — Proverbs 22:6, The Bible, The Living Bible (TLB) Translation.
Children are like sponges—they soak up what we pour on them. They are quick to assimilate and retain what they hear and see. Children are swift to imbibe and clutch unto the behaviors surrounding them—first from their parents and then from the society at large. If all that the child sees are positive, they will be sure that they will absorb the positive characters that characterize the ambiance they live in. On the flip side of the coin, if all that the child sees is negative, they will imbibe their negative influences. They become a chip off the block from which they are hewn. They reflect the image of what they are exposed to; hence, this lies the opportunity for us to frame them up in the correct way that they need to go. It is the parents’ responsibility to do so, and trust me; it is also an investment in hope. It is a price that you must pay in other to see your children become who they were meant to mature into from a positive light. Are you willing to pay the price for a good upbringing for your child? You decide.
Children have a delicate mind. They have a fragile mind, and we need to treat them as such. The same way you are careful with an egg not to crack it, you must be cautious with your child or children so that you won’t shatter him/her/them likewise. Don’t make them become a Humpty Dumpty who sat on the wall of life only to end up as a cracked baby with an uncertain future that needs to be pieced together like a jigsaw puzzle. In other words, children learn very quickly from the influences at home and the social circles that they are part of. Today, the virtual world is now part of that social circle. Children are impacted by what they watch on television. Children are guided by what they see in the virtual world through the video and virtual games that they play and the videos that they see. Please talk about the world of the numerous social media (e.g., Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Google Plus, etc.) outlets and their impact. Talk about child predators or pedophiles who use these virtual outlets to prey on innocent children out there? It can get scary—trust me. Their minds start getting shaped by all they see—good things influence them positively, and bad things negatively impact them. What is the primary influence of your child today? Do you even know? Consider this carefully and be aware of the reality.
“Love and freedom are vital to the creation and upbringing of a child.” — Sylvia Pankhurst.
Our children are our future. It is a responsibility for parents to raise their children in the right way. To do so, we must ensure that we are doing the things that are worthy of emulation. Your kids imitate you. They are masters in the art of mimicry. What you project is what they copy—call them copycats, if you will. What you tolerate as you lay the foundations of their lives is what they eventually become. Are your kids copying all the wrong things from you, then it may be time for you to make a U-turn for the better for their future-sake. This article talks to the man in the mirror, takes a very close look at yourself and makes a change. Do the right thing. I stumbled over this quotation by an Unknown Author as I was reading a book, and it was impressed on me to share it with all. I believe that anyone who is a parent needs to review this quotation and assess how they are raising their kids—look in this mirror! Is it time for you to change your way? It really summarizes the different ways the upbringing of a child could go—both good and bad. Here is the quotation, it says:
The quotation above is long; however, it is deep, and it says it all. There is no need to rehearse everything that it had to say; it’s clear as crystal. The truth is that if you choose to be negligent of raising your children correctly, be sure that as they will grow up negligent. They will be unconcerned about living or behaving right—they will go off the tangent to a negative path, to the dark side of the force, towards bad behavior. If you refuse to raise your kids right, the society that we live in may train them for you, and you may not be proud of the product that ensues from such an upbringing. The communities that we live in have the good, the bad, and the ugly. However, why take the chance and neglect raising your kids right within the confines of your own home? Why leave the society to solely raise them via the schools they go to or the company they keep? What if they choose to shun the good that the community offers and embrace the bad and the ugly? Who loses? You do, and eventually, they do. Don’t let your kids grow up to become society’s worst nightmare. Care for your child. Train him or her up correctly. Be diligent to instill in them the morals that will make them become the model citizen of tomorrow.
Become the example which you wish to see—that is the precise summary of the quotation above. Become the example that you crave your child to emulate, and they will soak that character up entirely. If you want a kid that loves God, then become a worshipper of God. If you want a kid that grows up to become book smart, then become book smart yourself. If you want a kid that grows up to become street smart, then become street smart yourself. If you want an industrious kid, then become industrious yourself. If you want a kid that is organized, then become organized yourself. They will mimic you—they will emulate you. On the split end of the spectrum, if you want a kid that hates their neighbor, then hate your neighbor—become racist if you will and see them tow the same path too. If you want your kid to become an angry person, then be sure to display anger at every opportunity you have around them. If you want your kid to become an alcoholic when they grow up eventually, then become the champion of the bottle yourself. If you want your kid to become a chronic smoker, then become a chronic smoker yourself to the point that a chimney has got nothing on you. If you want your child to become a drug addict, a junkie, then keep using illicit drugs around them. If you want your kids to curse like a sailor—no offense to the Navy, I love the Navy—then become a curse bucket yourself and see your dreams come true. If you want your kids to be violent, then become violent. I can go on and on. The bottom line is that kids are mirrors—they reflect the image that they see—positive or negative. They become the example that is before them. Change your ways. Turn a new leaf, live a new life. Your kids will benefit more as they emulate a new you. Are you willing to become the example that you want your kids to see and become? You decide.
Parents, you are a custodian of purpose. Every human being is an embodiment of purpose. We were all created for a specific and unique purpose. Out of the 7.7 billion people existing on the globe today, everyone is here on a distinct mission. Every one is made by design—no one is a mistake. If you understand why a thing is made, you will be able to channel the device to accomplish that right purpose for its design. You were made for a reason. Do you know it? If not, ask the Maker, God, and He will guide you to your purpose. Make it a point of duty to understand your purpose. This will help guide you in seeking to understand the purpose of your children. Each of our children was made for some individual reason or purpose. Your child is a person with a basis for being, existing for a purpose. Understand their purpose, and you will be able to guide them better. Understand their purpose, and you will be able to raise them right. Remember, you are a custodian of purpose. You are responsible for your children. Make some effort to understand them. Try to study them. Try your very best to raise them right. Learn about them so that you can guide them better. Ask their Maker, and the Maker will enlighten you on the reason why He has made them. Do you really know your kids? Think about this for a minute.
“I had a really wonderful upbringing. We were a tight family. It was wonderful to grow up with so many siblings. We were all just a year or two apart, and we were always so supportive of each other. I learned everything from my older brother and sister and taught it to my younger sisters.” — Joaquin Phoenix.
Are you a father? Are you a mother? How are you bringing up your kids? Are you the example that you would like to see in your children? Are you currently a bad example for your kid(s)? Are you willing to make a change for the better? Do you portray the right image that you want your kid(s) to reflect? Remember, they are mirrors and will only reflect the image that is before them. You are before them—you are that image that they reflect. What is in you is the foundation of the image you portray. If you are full of darkness, then you will manifest darkness and evil. If you are full of light, then you will manifest light. Emmanuel is Light—my belief, my opinion. Think about these things and do well to do what is right. It is your primary responsibility to raise your children right. Why bring them into the world if you intend or deliberately choose to do a mediocre job raising them? To do so is to punish that child. To do so is an act of wickedness to the child first and humanity. To neglect your duty to raise your child right is gross oversight worthy of reprimand—the hallmark of irresponsibility. Raising your child or children is an investment. It can be an investment in hope or investment in nothing. As an investment in hope, your child will have a fighting chance in becoming a citizen of worth that you and the society would be proud of. As an investment in nothing, your child may shift towards becoming the absolute dread of the society—a child that brings shame and causes sorrow, a child that causes the heart to bleed. Raising your kid(s) right starts from the confines of the nuclear family. Decide today to turn a new leaf and raise them right—you will be glad you did.