One of the greatest disservice that any human can do to themselves is to harbor a grudge. In life, it is inevitable that offenses are bound to arise. There is a famous quote that a lot of people are conversant with by Alexander Pope which states that, “To err is human; to forgive, divine.” In this statement in his poetry, “An Essay on Criticism” his saying meant that, “every human can make a mistake, so we should forgive those that do, just as God is said to show his divine mercy in forgiving sinners.” Jesus said in Matthew 6:14-15 that, “In prayer, there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can’t get forgiveness from God, for instance, without also forgiving others. If you refuse to do your part, you cut yourself off from God’s part” (The Message Bible).
How are you able to ask God for forgiveness for your own mistakes against others where you are harboring a grudge for a wrong done to you by another?” When you choose not to forgive others, you potentially become a prisoner of unforgiveness. When you open the Pandora’s Box of Unforgiveness, vices such as hatred, grudge, animosity, bitterness, and they like, start rearing their ugly heads. In choosing not to forgive those that hurt you, you willfully become a prisoner to unforgiveness. Bearing a grudge will ground you. Talk about the weight of negative psychological feelings that the unforgiving person must sustain towards those that they have an issue with. In the video below makes a lot of commonsense in exposing the deleterious effects of harboring a grudge and serves as an encouragement towards being free from the captivity of unforgiveness.
When people offend you, it has the possibility of eroding the level of trust that we have towards others. This can eventually lead us into bottling ourselves and our emotions to the world. This eventually leads us towards isolating ourselves from others. However, in this life, you cannot be an island. In trying to be an island, you will only end up crippling your purpose, which in turn causes your destiny to sink into the quagmire of a murky-funk. We live and exist in the community of life. By detaching yourself, as a byproduct of unforgiveness, you stand the chance of missing out on positive potential relationships that life offers you, which could be life-changing. A Thomas Carlyle once said that “Isolation is the sum total of wretchedness to a man.” To be honest, that is one of the worst things you could do to yourself. Hence, is it worth the trouble to stay unforgiving and miss out on the other opportunities that life presents to you? You judge.
Jesus further said in Luke 17:3-4 that, “Be alert. If you see your friend going wrong, correct him. If he responds, forgive him. Even if it’s personal against you and repeated seven times through the day, and seven times he says, ‘I’m sorry, I won’t do it again,’ forgive him.” (The Message Bible). This is a clarion call to all to forgive. However, how we handle ourselves when we are offended by people will tell a lot about our character and personality. Forgiveness is an art as well as a process. You need to make a conscious effort to let go of all the hurt. There is a potent power in forgiveness that liberates. To forgive shows the extent to which show our capacity to love despite the ache that we face. It is difficult to forgive those that hate us, those that mock us, those that treat us like dirt. But we must put arm ourselves with the same mind as Christ, who forgave those that crucified him and became the ransom for many. We must, therefore, embrace the power of forgiveness.
- I Encourage Somebody. (2017, December 22). The power of forgiveness [Video file]. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NxXKTN32n8I&t=2s